There are so many messed up dating situations out there. As the years pass, the value and quality of relationships continue to go downhill. Let’s be honest, the world does not do a great job at portraying what a relationship is really supposed to be like. What if things were different than they are? Let’s get hypothetical here for a moment.
|what if people stopped rushing?|
“Oh my gosh I’m 18 and never dated anyone!” “Oh no, I’m 25 and not married!” Chill out! So many people are in a rush to get into a relationship. I don’t remember ever hearing of a rule book that states an age where you have to be in a relationship or married by. Everyone finds their “one” at different times in their life. Don’t try to rush it, or else you could ruin something that could’ve been good, or overlook something good that’s right in front of you.
|what if guys stepped it up and held the leadership position they are meant to have?|
I cannot begin to explain the multitude of relationships I have either witnessed or been a part of where the guy just doesn’t lead. He almost treats dating as a game. Gentlemen (and ladies if you would like), check out my friend Matt Swaringim’s blog. Leadership in relationships is this guy’s niche, and he knows what he’s talking about.
|what if girls stopped looking to guys to discover their self worth?|
It breaks my heart to see so many young ladies living as victims to insecurity. There are girls out there who are longing for male attention to make them feel better about themselves. Ladies need to realize that no guy determines their value or beauty. It’s time for girls to start loving themselves and grow in confidence. I highly recommend that every girl out there follows a lady named Kimberly Jones on Twitter (@RealTalkKim).
|what if people dated to “get to know” instead of to “get some?”|
The reasons for dating someone need to be evaluated. If you don’t see yourself spending the rest of your life with someone, what are you doing with them? Relationships are not a game. Take them seriously.
|what if people actually waited?|
Crazy thought: What if you didn’t sleep around? What if people took sexual purity seriously and didn’t have sex with every person they date? Crazier thought: What if people began to wait for their husband or wife? Think of all the regrets, hurt, and heartbreak that would be nonexistent!
|what if honesty was included?|
Too many people are trying to hide their past. I understand that the past is the past, but sometimes you just have to be upfront with the person you care about. Keeping things in the dark will never bring light to your relationship. The past is obviously not the only thing to be honest about. Make sure there is nothing hidden from your significant other. If you can’t be honest with them, then they aren’t the one for you.
|the challenge|
My challenge to you is this: Do not let the world tell you how to or how to not live your life. Have standards for your relationships.
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This is a great format and it really brings out your writing style. I love all of your advice, and I’ll be following for more tips.
Heather, this is awesome. So many good points. Please keep blogging about this topic!!
I loved reading this. I wish more couples, or people in general, felt this way. Great to see that there are people, such as yourself, still find the true meaning of love. I have gotten caught in lust… this blog would have gotten me right out. 🙂