love & lust |my mini rant|

I am sure everyone has heard someone say “It was love at first sight!” I’m sorry, what?! You mean to tell me that from the moment that you saw that “special someone” you were literally immediately in love with them? How is that possible? Now you have to understand, I’m not talking about a mother who just had a baby and says this. I’m talking about couples who claim that instead of falling in love, they were hit with it the moment they laid eyes on each other. Every single time I have heard someone say this I cannot help but laugh.

|what’s love again?|
Love. Let’s talk about this. I’ve already written on what love truly is (little four letter word). But perhaps I need to elaborate on how it works. Love isn’t instant. It’s a process. How can you say you love someone when you don’t know anything about them? You don’t know their strengths, their weaknesses, their goals, their passions, or even their favorite food! You may like the way a person looks, but you cannot say you truly love them when you only know little about them, if anything at all. Unless you can tell a person’s character and life story from just one look, then you cannot claim to love them at first sight.

|so what is this feeling?|
Love is when you get to know a person, when you learn their character traits, their strengths and weaknesses, their zeal, and you love and accept all of them. Love is a deep affection for someone whom you cannot imagine life without. But, love doesn’t stop there. It’s not merely a feeling. Love is an action. It’s putting someone else before yourself. It’s being willing to put your life on the line for another person. Love is doing all that is in your power to let someone know that you truly care for them. Love is a process, so what is this “at first sight” stuff all about?

|lust lust lust|
Allow me to introduce you to a little thing called lust. Let’s say you see a guy, see a girl, and instantly you want to know them in a different way. You want to be with them. Love at first sight, right? Yeah right. Welcome to the feeling of lust my friends. Lust is a passionate desire for something/someone. Some would simply label it as a strong sexual desire (dictionary).

|so what’s the big deal?|
Lust is so far from love. Because of this, it is something that must be controlled. Do not give in to lustful desires (1 John 2:16; Colossians 3:5). If you are really interested in someone, then get to know them and see if something grows from it. But don’t try to rush things because of a desire. It won’t end well. Lust will not lead you to happiness.

|the challenge|
My challenge to you is this: Make sure you know someone before making love claims. Do not ever give in to any lustful desire. You are stronger than that.

Now, enough of my ranting. Time for a video!